that's a big jump. when your kid goes high school, he is entering an entirely different world and if you're a parent, you have to be engaged with your kid during that transition. >> what would you council parents with regard to allowing their children to attend parties put on by teens of their age at other snoms. >> i council parents to call-up the other home and say, are you going to be there? are you parents going to be there are you going to watch what is going to? and be there? i mean be there. but these parents are so out of touch. john, one of the things, 80% of the parents we surveyed said that neither alcohol nor marijuana was available at the parties their teens went to. 50% of the teens issues these are the teens of this these parents said critical and marijuana are available. readily available. they don't know what's going on or don't want to know. >> your survey terms age 17 a time of route rude awakening. why do you say that? >> because by 17 you're almost certain to be offered drugs. we we